Fathers and Sons

 

 

 

I have often heard the words... the most important role model in a young child's life is the same sex parent. I use to shrug that off and think NAH............. Well years later although I still do not entirely agree with the statement I do see valid points in it. Now as Dylan is approaching his pre teen years. I can see just how important that father/son bond is in his life. I see him watch Josh and often do things similar. I often hear him say the words to me "well dad says" Or "dad did this or that" I sometimes think Josh can be too "hard" on him but then realize he is just shaping him into the boy he needs to be and teaching him in a love and respectful way. Dylan does not always like Josh's approach and often whines and argues with him. Most of the time he comes back to us a few days later and says " you know what.. dad may have been right" Of course that will not stop him from whining and arguing again in the future.

I have watched Josh walk our fussing babies up and down the hall and take the boys out to play after a 12 hour day at work. I know he would like to be resting but always knows the importance of this time with them. I hear myself complaining sometimes when he does not help around the house or give me a breather. However looking back I would not change a thing. He is absolutely the father these boys need and deserve.

People get caught up in the unimportant things in life sometimes. I myself sometimes wish he would bring me flowers and sweep me off my feet like he use to with his little gifts and extra attention. I find myself wishing he would do those little things that made me fall in love with him in the first place. Then I see him scoop up our crying child and console him. I watch him try not to move off the couch so he does not wake our sleeping toddler from his lap. Then I remember I did not need flowers or jewelry. I just fell in love with him all over again.